We all have come across the proverb; if you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together. This quote reinforces the importance of having a circle of people whom you can count on to reach your goals. Either while pursuing your life’s purpose or at the workplace. Through the years I have learnt the importance of surrounding myself with people who can offer sound advice and mentorship both at work and in everyday life.
I remember when I held my first youth forum; my circle of coaches showed up, delivered talks and made everything work at no charge! It was a great success. Their presence worked for me. I wanted them to have my back which they did.
I have always sought the advice of and even involved my circle in my work. Up to date I continue to seek their advice when I need it
Friendship should always be a symbiotic relationship where both parties stand to benefit. It creates many opportunities for each person to give or receive support in any form they may require it in a no pressure environment. I have always sought the advice of and even involved my circle in my work. Up to date I continue to seek their advice when I need it. I have also had the opportunity to reciprocate in similar ways when I was called upon to. It is also very important to acknowledge and show gratitude when your friends come through for you. In many cases great effort and sacrifices may have been made in helping you. The show of support and gratitude to friends may take different forms including, offering a listening ear, giving advice, monetary support when in need, buying products from their business, celebrating their success and offering words of encouragement.
In my reading this week, I have constantly been drawn to the word synergy and the law of mutual benefit popularized by Van Moody in his book People Factor in a whole new light. I realized that if two people purposing to work together pull in different directions, they are destined for stagnation and subsequent failure. This means aligning your ego and agenda to ensure you are of benefit to your circle as much as you would like to benefit from them. This is what is popularly known as cultivating a win-win relationship (law of mutual benefit).
Since I consciously choose very carefully that team of ‘soldiers’ I have tasked with having my back. I must also consciously purpose to watch their backs with utmost vigilance as well, because I understand that no one wants to give and not receive in turn. I may be winning but is my business partner, my workmate or my friends winning? I must be a multiplier of their efforts, be their addition to enable them reach the next level. The best thing about working toward a win win relationship by being synergistic is that it is a conscious endeavour. No relationship is neutral; all of them influence you in a way either positively or negatively.
The best thing about working toward a win-win relationship by being synergistic is that it is a conscious endeavour
Who are you going to deliberately make your tomorrow agenda?
What have the people in your circle sacrificed to help you get to where you are?